Fatherliness

Tomorrow I have a date with andelay99. He seems like a nice guy; financial advisor, tutors at a highschool. I'm not sure how much I trust people that willingly spend time with teenagers (Not because I think they're pedophiles, but because I find teenagers to be incredibly irritating), but it's nice that he volunteers?
Question mark?
I think women list these things like volunteering, loving your family, having a creative job and being nice to puppies on our "want" lists, but when we actually end up running into these men, they end up being incredibly...
Boring?
Okay, "loving your family" is a bad example. You should love your family. But I have had boyfriends that barely tolerated their family and they were still amazing guys. Their families were just really shitty.
We make these lists; these incredibly detailed, specific list of our perfect guy. But is this list accurate, or does it just reflect our ideas of what we should want our perfect guy to be like? I know that we are supposed to love men that love their mothers, but honestly, if your mother is horrible, I would prefer that you did not like her. And okay, if you volunteer, that's great... But you really had nothing more fun to do with your time? Maybe you think volunteering is fun, and in that case, I do not want to go on a date with you. You might take me to a soup kitchen. 
Does this mean I am a bad person, or being honest with myself? 
Men's Fitness Magazine surveyed more than 1,000 American women ages 21 to 54 in two online polls. One was conducted by Opinion Research Corporation, based in Princeton, New Jersey, and the other was done on BestLifeOnline.com. 
The survey found that the top five character traits women desire are:
1. Faithfulness
2. Dependability
3. Kindness
4. Moral Integrity
5. Fatherliness


Me, I feel like the first four are just a guide to being a decent human being. The fifth one cracks me up, because that is obviously our ovaries talking ladies. Was that sexist? Does it count since I'm a woman? Alls I know is when I see a man with a baby, I am doubled over in pain from the neediness of my ovaries to make a baby. Chill out guys, I'll put you to use eventually. Or possibly soon if that deal goes through with those infertile parents. (Just kidding.)
So, basically: Don't cheat on me, don't stand me up, don't be an asshole and don't work at BP. 
Look, I'll say it. These things are all fine and good, and kind of a "duh" factor for me, but what about those things we don't really want to admit we want?
My Guilty Wish List:
1. Meanness.   Please don't make me be mean over here all by myself. Let's make fun of that homeless person together!
2. Jealousy   Yes, that guy did just check out my ass. You go ahead and scowl at him. 
3. Asshole Potential (Or "Assertive") Yes, the waiter brought us the wrong check after ignoring us all evening. Don't you dare leave him a tip.
4. Roughness This may be one a nice guy can pull off, but I haven't met him yet. Throw me up against that wall please. 


I'm exaggerating a bit. I don't want to date a jerk, and I myself am only mean about 25% of the time and only about very specific things. But I also think these standards we expect men to meet are a little ridiculous, not to mention boring. How about a guy that collects stuff? How about someone that loves the banjo? Someone incredibly anal about spelling?


So this date tomorrow. I have been tricked again by the height. I should really follow my own rules. He is 5'6, which is barely taller then me. Barely. Does this matter? I don't know! If I'm going to be looking online I feel like I am getting the bargain bin anyway. Which is hypocritical considering andalay99 is also meeting someone he met online. From the supposed bargain bin. I would rather label my bin as "slightly tarnished but still almost like new". Or "New to You"! Which is a creepy antique-ish store in my town. 
I think my problem is that I still think of myself as an incredible catch. Which is not to say that great self esteem is bad, but I am incredibly critical of people. I think of myself as an "8", and I have been out on dates with 4-6's on okcupid. Not a whole lot of 8's going on. Or maybe there are, but since they're men their self esteem is even larger, and they think they are "10"s. 
Maybe I should not rate people by numbers.
Lots of food for thought today.


Okcupid question of the day:

No means NO!

Always. Period.Mostly, occasionally it's really a Yes in disguiseA No is just a Yes that needs a little convincing!Never, they all want me. They just don't know it.

Bonus: This is the first picture that shows up when you google "horrible date"

 Read more about what women want: http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/most_desirable_traits/#ixzz1UgKdQ2BB